Ahh, love. Something we all want, but absolutely no one understands. I don’t care who you are, you could be a self-proclaimed, all-knowing, love guru, but you still don’t have this thing figured out. The most caring and sentimental emotion in our everyday lives is more than likely the most destructive and confusing as well. The funny thing about love is, well, everything.
Before I launch too far into this post, I just want to get something straight. I absolutely DO NOT have love figured out. Love has been one of the most difficult parts of my life as a matter of fact. But, I have been in a few love situations and I think I can offer some insight as to what this quote is trying to tell us.
For me, the first point that this quote is making is that you shouldn’t stress too much over finding someone who is one hundred percent compatible with you. To do such a thing is, more than likely, a colossal waste of time. After all, nobody’s perfect. So, don’t scour the earth in search of some fair maiden (or prince) who you think is your perfect match. Instead, find someone who simply feels right to you. It doesn’t matter if they’re tall, short, fat, skinny, funny, or boring. All that matters is that they feel like a good match. In my opinion, going with your gut is a big step in the right direction concerning this whole love mess.
One of the hardest things to do in life in general, let alone in your love life, is to trust yourself. You hear people say it all the time: “Go with your gut”, or “Trust your instincts”. Well, even though you’ve heard those phrases a billion times, I’m gonna tell you once more. Just trust yourself! No one knows you better than you. So when you find someone who feels like a good fit, just go with it! There’s no harm in testing the waters. After all, whats the worst that could happen? You hang out a few times, and it doesn’t work. Big deal. You step back, and give it another go. Don’t pass on something that feels like it could be really great. As one of my favorite lyrical kwotes says, “If you never try, you’ll never know” (that’s Coldplay, for anyone who was in the dark).
The second thing that this quote is saying is that everyone has small, or maybe even big, characteristics or qualities that make them imperfect. It’s unavoidable. But, the funny thing about a person that you love is that you may start to admire them for their imperfections. The way they talk, or do certain things, the kwirks they have that make them who they are. You may be surprised at the qualities of a person that you fall in love with. Some of those qualities may be ones that you would never even consider associating yourself with. Maybe those are even qualities that you once viewed as nasty character flaws. When you’re in love, you may find yourself thinking in a lot of ways in which you never have thought before. That’s because, well, it’s love.
I’ll put it to you plain and simple. You’re never going to admire a perfect person. Why? Because perfect people don’t exist. But, what you can do is find someone good for you, someone who is, yes, imperfect. You can admire them for everything that they are, imperfections and all, and you can be happy with the fact that you have found something that very few people really and truly find.
So, again, don’t shoot for a perfect ten. Instead, find about a 7 or an 8 who laughs at your jokes and who you can actually carry on a conversation with. Clearly kidding, but I think you catch my drift.