“You’re always you, and that don’t change, and you’re always changing, and there’s nothing you can do about it.” -Neil Gaiman


Change. Transformation. Innovation. Development. Modification. Metamorphosis. Whatever you want to call it, it happens to all of us. We are all continually molding and morphing our personalities and identities based on what we perceive in the world around us. It happens all the time. You see, hear, or do something new, and, shazam, you’re a changed person. The change may happen quickly, or it may happen slowly. You also may or may not actually hear the word “shazam” during this change. The change may be big, or the change may be small, but one things for certain; the change is happening.

Though there is a lot of this change stuff floating around, and it’s nearly impossible to avoid, we humans all have some central personality traits that define who we are. Every person has a core. Kind of like an apple, except humans don’t have poisonous seeds in their cores. Actually, that may be true for some people. But, that’s another discussion for another time.

At our core are the things which we live by, the values that govern our personal lives. These may be religious values, political views, or completely personal outlooks. Your core can be made up of lots of things and every person’s core is unique. The first half of today’s quote is telling us that at your core, you’re always going to be you.

Now, this part is how I feel personally. What follows is completely up for debate.

The first part of the quote goes, “You’re always you, and that don’t change”. For me, I think that this quote is saying that at your core, at the bare bones of your personality, you never change. Personally, I agree. I know. I’ve just massively contradicted myself, but just bare with me.

Our core values are what we stand for, what we would fight for if we needed to. These are the things that define us as individuals. As far as I’m concerned, these values don’t change. Deep down, at the absolute center of who we are as people doesn’t shift or waver. Do people change all the time? Yes, absolutely. Do some people change drastically? Definitely. Big changes happen, I can’t deny that.

But, here’s what I think. I think that if you experience a major change, that if you believe that one of your core values has undergone a transformation, then that value that changed was never a core value at all.

Think about it. If a value that you thought defined you as a person altered or changed, then how strongly did you believe in that value in the first place? You can have an extremely strong belief or value that isn’t necessarily a core value. Beliefs like that are subject to change and alteration. But, who you are at your core, the foundation of your personality, that’s not going anywhere. For me, values, beliefs, or characteristics that change are not at our core.

Is it bad that we don’t change at our core? Hell no. You should embrace who you are at your core and be proud of what you stand for. Your central beliefs are one of the few things that are completely stable in life. So don’t be afraid to stick to your guns. Don’t be afraid to be who you are.

Now for the second half of today’s quote. It goes something like, “…you’re always changing, and there’s nothing you can do about it.”.

People are always going to change. You are always going to change. It’s part of life. As a result of doing the things that you do and meeting the people who you meet, you are going to change the way you see the world and everything in it. Anything that you encounter has an influence on you. The lessons that you learn throughout life will show you new ways to think and new ways to act. Maybe you’ll adopt some of those ways of thinking and doing, maybe you won’t. The bottom line is that change is unavoidable.

Actually, we need change to survive. Adaptation is one of the most important, if not the most important, aspects of survival. We learn new ways to do things, better ways to do things. Adaptation has allowed us to be the mega-efficient race that we are. We find a problem, we develop a solution. But, not only do we solve the problem, we create new ways of acting that allow us to avoid future problems. We learn, and we change. That’s what makes us so freakin cool.

So, embrace the change! Don’t resist the forces of human kind that are clearly telling you that it’s time to switch things up. Change can be good. Change can be refreshing. Change can allow you to be a better person.

I know that you’re probably like “What the…”, but I’ll explain it, short and sweet.

We have core values and beliefs, things that are concrete and that make us unique. These things do not change. If they do change, well, they were never really at our core to begin with. At our core, we stay the same. But, we can still change. We can develop new outlooks, ideas, and actions. This does not alter our core, but it still makes us different as individuals. Change can be good, and a lot of times, change is needed. We need change to solve life’s problems.

Basically, change happens, just not at our core.

You rock, don’t ever change. Just kidding that was stupid. Seriously though, tell me what you think!

End Kwote

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